Merry Nofucksgiving!
I’ve been meaning to share more of my greater good visioning exercises. I’ve also been meaning, though failing, to write something about my concern and fear of what may be ahead of us following the U.S. presidential election. So, soon (ish?) I will write about moratoriums on land development, and mega-billionaires giving one year of their income toward that great good, and how I’m choosing to prepare for whatever the future might hold.
But not today.
Today, on a U.S. national holiday about gratefulness, I want to offer instead an invitation to care less about a lot of things. In part because this holiday has some problematic mythological and actual history. In part because sometimes things just feel too serious and I want to encourage laughs and levity.
I am claiming this day as Nofucksgiving. Why? Because sometimes we should give fewer fucks to things that are not deserving of our time and energy.
On this, my inaugural Nofucksgiving, I encourage making a list of things you, or we, or I, or your family, or whomever, should no longer give any fucks about. Here’s the short list my spouse and I came up with this year:
Moderately unhealthy coping mechanisms
Petty interpersonal conflicts
The net worth of billionaires
The State of Florida
Expiration dates
Worrying about putting up holiday decorations “too early” or leaving them up “too long”
People who cannot say “I don’t know” or “I’m sorry”
Everyone’s list will vary, and just because I’m giving no fucks to these things doesn’t mean that there aren’t important aspects of some of them that I should care about or keep on my radar. For example, if a moderately unhealthy coping mechanism tips into a truly unhealthy coping mechanism, then energy needs to go there to course correct. If the cheese is actually bad, throw it out, but not just because the expiration date has passed. And I will continue to pay attention to whether laws or policies in the State of Florida make it impossible for me to visit my family, but I’m not going to spend my time and energy worrying about it.
Right now, and in the future, there are going to be much more important things to focus on. Let’s spend a little time, and lend a little silliness even, to thinking about some of the stuff that just shouldn’t matter as much as some folks want to think.
Merry Nofucksgiving! And may you all have a happy, healthy, and filling day however it is you choose to spend it.
